How are You living your life?

I've heard someone say (maybe it was me) that there are three types of dreams anyone can have:

1.  Where you are an observer - you are simply watching the dream like a movie
2.  Where you are a passive participant - someone is doing something to you (typical of nightmares)
3.  Where you are an active participant - you're actually controlling the outcome of the dream or taking charge.

Isn't it interesting, then, that the same could be said of life itself?  What kind of life are you leading?  Are you:

AN OBSERVER

Do you live your life as if nothing matters, you don't care about anything, and you just watch everyone else live their life with dreams or hopes of something happening to you?

PASSIVE?

Do you let others control your life, make decisions for you, tell you where you can or can't go or what you can or can't do?  I know, I know, you're saying "what the hell do you think Parents do ya moron?"  Well, true, they do control your life to some extent, at least in terms of trying to stop you from doing drugs, doing your homework, etc.  I mean, face it, they do have a bit more experience than you.  But what they don't control is how you feel about your homework.  How you react to an offer for drugs.  It's the old "lead a horse to water" bit.

And being passive isn't always obvious.  Have you ever said "they MAKE me so angry" or "he really made me depressed"?  Have you ever said "I don't want to do x because they'll make fun of me"?  Well guess what, that's passive living.  You're living according to SOMEONE ELSE'S judgements.  If THEY think dancing is stupid, I won't do it.  If THEY think I'm gay when I'm not I'm going to get really depressed.  Whatever THEY do, I'm going to react to.  That's passive behavior.  

ACTIVE?

Do you take charge and cause things to happen the way you want them to?  Do you take people's insults, their anger towards you, and make the decision to see what's wrong with THEM?  If so, good for you!  You will create the events that lead to your deepest desires, regardless of external input.  These are the folks that go far. 

If you're in category one or two, DON'T DESPAIR!  You can make it different for yourself, starting by what you're reading now!  Take a look within yourself.  How did this article make you feel?  Angry?  Depressed cuz I'm right and you're an Observer?  Well there ya go - one article has MADE you feel one way or another.  

So take another look.  Read the article again, then PAUSE and ask yourself one simple question.  "How do I WANT to respond to this?"  Then you'll realize a) you DO have a choice to make, and b) you CAN choose to react or feel the way that's best for you, which means, c) YOU run your own life.  Not someone else.

Hope this helps.  If it doesn't make sense or you want to ask further questions in private, feel free to email me.  The email address is right here on the blog.

Have a great weekend!